Love Chat #3

1 Corinthians 13.8-14

It would be wonderful if ethical decisions boiled down to the choice between bad and good. That would make things easy. But I've found that things are a bit more complicated than that. In fact, I think that there are more than two categories involved. There are four:

1. Actions that are bad

2. Actions that are neutral

3. Actions that are better

4. Actions that are best

It's hard to know what items to put in each category, and sometimes the hardest choice is between better and best.

The Bible lifts up love expressed selflessly to God and others as the sole inhabiter of the best category. That's because it is permanent, mature, and clear.

1. Things like spiritual gifts, talents, work, family, etc. may fall into the better category. They are admirable and needed and better, but not the best. That's because these things eventually pass away. Prophecy will cease. Tongues will be silenced. Knowledge will pass away. But love remains.

2. A preoccupation with your talents and gifts is ultimately childish. But love is mature.

3. A focus on one's abilities is to see in a mirror dimly. To love is to see with clear vision.

So we need to make love the ultimate goal of our lives and not be so preoccupied with things that are very good, but not the best. We need to put the big rocks in first, and let the littler rocks fill in around them.

Have you made it a life goal to love God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength? Are you joyfully and sacrificially loving others as you love yourself? If so, you are choosing wisely and are involved with the best things.

Related passages: 1 John 3.2, Philippians 3.12-13, 2 John 1.6, 2 Peter 1.5-8.

Love Chat #2

1 Corinthians 13.4-7

Popular culture has the wrong idea about love. If you listen to too much pop music you'll start to believe that love is sweeping emotion that overtakes you and leaves you hot blooded. People call that love, but it's really romance or perhaps just lust.

The Bible says that love is an action. It's a behavior. It's a choice. To be a loving person means you do loving things. Love gets it's hands dirty.

1 Corinthians 13. 1-4 is a list of 15 verbs in bullet point form. Verbs are what love is all about.

Here is my version of what love is.... "Love gets up in the middle of the night and feeds the baby. Love doesn’t ask when she has a headache. Love sometimes says yes when you're not in the mood. Love unplugs the toilet. It remembers to pick up milk at the grocery store. It changes diapers. It remembers anniversaries, and birthdays, and Mother’s Day, and Valentines day, and about 15 other days. Love occasionally goes to the chic flick. It occasionally turns off the football game. It wipes noses, cares for a sick child, cares for a elderly parent. Love stops talking and just listens, drives to 700 soccer games; comes home exhausted and still makes conversation; works all day, then prepares a meal for a friend. Love picks up, cleans up, mops up, shines up, and tidies up. Love listens when you don’t make any sense. Love stays connected."

Love is an action. So be a person of loving action!

Related passages: James 2.17, 1 John 3.18, 1 John 4.7-8, John 13.34, Romans 13.8, 1 Peter 1.22.

Love Chat #1

1 Corinthians 13.1-3

There are two significant Holy Spirit lists in the New Testament: the list of the Gifts of the Spirit and the list of the Fruit of the Spirit.

The fruit of the Spirit are character qualities that are developed in Christians over time. They are found in Galatians 5 and include things like love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. All Christians are supposed to grow all of these things all of the time.

The gifts of the Spirit are special talents and abilities which the Spirit gives to us individually. There are lots of spiritual gifts referenced in the New Testament. 1 Corinthians 12 mentions a dozen: wisdom, knowledge, faith, healing, miracles, prophecy, discernment, tongues, interpretation, administration, teaching, and apostleship. We don't get all of these gifts; each of us only gets a few.

The problem in Corinth was that people were very gifted, but not very loving. They had great gifts of the Spirit, but were not demonstrating much fruit. They had lots of talent, but not much character.

In the passage today Paul declares that character is more important than talent. You might have amazing ability to preach, sing, teach, pray, give, communicate, discern, or whatever; but if you do not have love you are nothing.

This leads to three implications:

1. Character development trumps talent development

2. Character development will involves spiritual disciplines

3. How we get along is critical to church life

I encourage everyone to fully develop your talents. But more importantly: fully develop your character.

Related passages: 1 John 3.4-20, 1 John 4.19-21, 1 Thessalonians 3.12, Colossians 3.12-14

Clueless and Oblivious

1 Corinthians 11. 17-34

Sometimes we do things that impact others in a negative way, not because we are mean or evil, but because we are self-absorbed, clueless and oblivious.

This happened in Corinth. A group of well off Christians with time on their hands would arrive early at the church agape feast (potluck dinner with communion). They would eat and drink and enjoy their friends, oblivious to the fact that they were eating all the food that the poorer church members relied on. When the slaves and working class arrived after a hard day of labor there was nothing left for them and their wealthy brothers were sloshed and gorged.

This accentuated the class differences that the church was trying to bridge, and ruined the whole idea that "in Christ we are all equal and unified."

Paul told the early arrivers to get their eyes off themselves, start being aware of others, and eat at the same time!

In our day, it's easy to be self-absorbed and oblivious, hanging out with people just like ourselves, forming little affinity groups, and ignoring people who need our help or who are not just like us.

So I suggest five things that we can do to stave off this problem.

1. Attend the next mystery dinner. Occasionally we offer nights where 4-5 families gather to have dinner. Nobody knows who will show up to their group. New friendships are formed and barriers are crossed.

2. Commit to meeting new people during our handshaking times in the services. Don't just run to greet your friends. Reach out to a stranger. Empathize with the person who knows nobody, and do something about it.

3. Commit to meeting new people after the service at the coffee hour. Look for the person standing in a corner and include them. Don't be so self-absorbed that you don't even see the isolated person. Don't be clueless and oblivious.

4. While taking communion remind yourself that despite some pretty big differences, we are all one in Christ.

5. When you attend a church potluck dinner look for the family that is sitting alone, and plop down next to them. This is especially important if that family is new or is attending a potluck for the first time.

Most Christians I know are really great people. They are not mean or nasty, but they can be oblivious. Let's reduce our clueless level and reach out to people who are not just like us!

Related passages: Jude 12, Acts 2.42-47, Ephesians 2.19-22, Galatians 3.28.

Clueless and Oblivious